Better To Have Loved And Lost
  • "Better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all"

    Does anyone here agree with this statement?

    I don't

    to find out some doesn't love you is a heart ripping experience, but the love you have for that person makes you happy.

    Heart ache sucks!

  • Oh yes, I totally agree with that statement!!!!!

    To love is such an enriching experience!!! There is so much to learn and to gain by loving. You see, when you truly love, then it is not foremost in your mind what you will get from it, only what you can give to it!
    To be able to give so deeply from your innermost self is very rewarding in and of itself, even if you don't get back what you think you should. If you love and give unselfishly like that, then you will have gained even if you don't think so. If nothing else, then you've learned something about yourself that you may never have known before.

    To me, there is no 'real' life without loving.
  • You know what Susan your right it has thought me alot about myself that I don't always have to pretend to be something I'm not.The person in question feels something but not as strong as me.Maybe someday,just maybe
  • This question may be weird to you all.....

    what is love? I don't know if I have felt it or have I shown it :doh:

    Love, life, fate, destinies etc... these kind of words are beyond my knowledge (if I have any :peace: )
  • Originally posted by Shattered Dreamer@Jun 19 2003, 11:44 PM

    "Better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all"

    For me personally, the statement is true.

    One thing i also believe is that it can only truly be appreciated when you have been in a relationship where the feelings were reciprocated, i.e. you both felt the same way.

    Experiencing a situation where the other person feels just the same about you as you feel about them is a lot different from being 'in love' with somebody where those feelings are not reciprocated to the same extent.

  • I would whole heartedly agree with that statement. I have been through some hell in the past in the name of love, but in the moments that love showed it's true form I would never ever take back.

    I would not be who I am today without learning from both joy and pain, love and loss.
  • You already know my views on the subject SD. But if you don't mind...perhaps this "shattering feeling" you feel would not be love.

    You cannot also forget that there are other sayings out there like:
    "Love hurts."

    I think that's about all I'm going to say here.
  • Love is something that shouldn't be taken lightly. It's not just a word that you use to get to something you want but should rather be used to show what you can give.

    Love is a two-edged sword, sure but with everything that is good, bad is always close behind. It's how you react to the situations that you run into that will determine what happens next.

    If you give up, does that mean you're a loser? If i know i'm going to be hurt, should i still.......? Love, is it really worth it?

    All questions that you must find the answer to yourself, deep inside lies the true answer to any question that you may ask yourself about life, you just have to dig it out. Sometimes you may not know the answer and that's the best time to talk with others(such as this right here) as sometimes others insights on themselves helps you out and that's good but sometimes, no one else will be around for you.....and those are the times when you must really dig deep to find answers.

    What if i don't find a definite answer?

    Sometimes answers don't come to you right away. Sometimes the time that must be spent just dwelling on your question will bring you the answer, sometimes the answer comes out of nowhere and other times it's there waiting for you but you just have to find it.


    My experience with love is that when you have a chance to learn something then it's worth doing it.

    So, how do i know if i'm going to learn something beforehand?

    No matter what you do in life you have to live your life for the moment and if you don't then you find yourself straying from the path that you should be following. You will learn something from every experience you go through but if you're focusing on the past or the future then how do you know what you've gone through in the present? The answer is that you won't so you have no choice but to live in the present if you really want to learn from your mistakes.


    Love is a great thing, even through it's problems which is far and between if you play your cards right. You just have to be sure that before you focus on what you're receiving that you have taken care of what you're giving and putting into what you're doing. The present my friends, the present is where you must live. Focus, that's what life is about, focusing on what you're doing now.

    So that's my view on love. Take from this what you can and do your best with what you have. All you can do is your best, nothing more should be expected.

    Well, i hope that you enjoy posting and have fun gaming.